Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Monday, January 19, 2015

Meet Lola: Lola Lane Love + Sephora giveaway



1. Let's start off with introductions- tell us a little about yourself and about your blog. How did you get started blogging? How did you get your blogging name?

Hello! My name is Amanda but you can call me Lola. I am a 25 year old, married woman living in Pittsburgh with my husband and two fur babies. I started blogging honestly.just for an outlet. Also for a community when I was feeling alone and really struggling with my anxiety. I am sliding into my 3rd month of blogging and I just love it. I've already seen such a huge change in myself and I'm so excited for this journey. As far as my blog name goes, the name Lola is a nickname given to me out of the blue by my husbands cousin when she was about three. It just stuck. Then I like the idea of a 'lane' as a route to get somewhere and I'm just all about love. Self love and love for others.



2. You've been married for a few years and you share a lot of your story about being married to a transman. How do you think sharing your story has helped you?  (I personally know sharing my story about my spinal cord injury has helped me cope a lot... those are two different things though but I love hearing how blogging / writing has made someone grow)
I think that sharing that story, although really there is so much to it that it will take many blog chapters for the story to be told, was absolutely empowering. I got a lot of great feeback, ALL of which was supportive. It's something that I'm so incredibly proud of. I'm proud of his strength, I'm proud of our journey and I'm proud of the people that surround us. It is a lot different and also similar in some ways from your injury, Sabrina. A lot of up and downs to say the least but getting back up makes us the heros :)

3. What were the reactions of others? Do you talk about it as openly outside of your blog?
Well, I will honestly tell anyone who wants to know. Kaleb is pretty open about it as well. However, there is a level of safety that needs to be kept in our society unfortunately so it's not something we would go screaming running down the street or tell a new co-worker without feeling it out. However, on my blog, I felt safe. It was also something that I wanted out there, so it didn't have to be the elephant in the room. As far a peoples reactions, we have been lucky enough to never have a horrible reaction. People who don't approve, usually just go about their business and choose not to talk to us. Their loss.



4. What is your BEST marriage advice?
Wow! Well, we will be married for 3 years in August and together 8 years at the end of this month! Although that's not and eternity, I think it's long enough to know that two things ring true. Always, always pick your battles. I learned a long time ago that blowing my top of Kaleb leaving his clothes on the floor is never going to change him. Even though it makes me cringe. On the same coin, him losing it about me putting the cracked eggs back in the carton isn't going to make me stop doing it. Don't spend your time fighting over the little things. Just let those go. Also, I would have to say never stop 'dating' each other. Me and Kaleb have honestly made it this far because we still hold hand, all the time. We still go on movie dates, he still opens the door and I love to get dressed up, even just for him.



5. Besides blogging, what other hobbies do you have?
I really love to cook. I can't wait to get some recipes up on the blog in 2015!  Besides that? I love to scrapbook, drink coffee, watch movies, and take cat naps.


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Together Lola and I will be giving away a 50$ Gift card to Sephora! If you want to enter to win (I know you do), the widget below has all the ways you can! Good luck!




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Wednesday, January 14, 2015

GETTING BEHIND THE WHEEL |



GUYS- I HAVE MY DRIVERS LICENSE AGAIN! I can now legally drive and I am so happy about that! Freedom is finally coming my way.

So let's back up a little so I can tell you about it all. My goal for driving was actual to be driving by the end of 2014. I pushed it off and didn't start getting things rolling until the end of the year. I finally got in touch with someone around November of 2014 and she met with me in October to go over some paperwork. She ended up getting me in touch with a man named Jon who would be my driving instructor for the hand controls.

I let my license expire when I turned 21 because I knew I would have to take a driving test again (because of my disability and the restrictions I need on my license) and I wasn't prepared for that... because I let it expire, I was told I would need to take the written test to get a permit (I had no valid license to practice driving with). I suck at tests and I had a lot of anxiety about taking the written test. I finally went in to the DMV to take the test and the wouldn't let me. It was very confusing but I ended up getting a permit that day and I schedule a meeting with Jon to practice with the hand controls.

Jon worked about 2 hours from where I live and because it's hard for me to get a ride- we decided that if we both felt comfortable, I would just take my driving test the same day I went down to practice. This was a bit scary because I had not drove since my accident and I wasn't sure how I was going to react to being behind the wheel again. I basically didn't sleep the night before because I was so nervous.. but it ended up not being bad at all.

Jon and I practiced for about 2 hours before I felt comfortable enough to take my test. Driving with hand controls was a lot easier than I thought and being in control of a car again wasn't as scary as I thought it would be. I was so shocked at how comfortable I felt. During my test, the instructor told me I was a great driver. (Jon didn't test me- someone else did) and I ended up PASSING with a score of SEVEN! I only missed two things (I braked hard once bc the brakes were touchy and I backed out into the other lane a little) so I got my license on the spot! I was so happy and so proud of myself.

Now for the future- I have to find a car. I was going to use my dads car because he never uses it but because of personal reasons I plan on trying to get another car. I should have my hand controls in about a month and then I can start applying for jobs!

I'm proud of myself for facing the fears I've had for two years and I'm proud that I'm taking control of my life again. It's a slow process but this is just another step in the right direction and it was a great start to 2015.


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